i think i hit a milestone with isaac today. and i've definitely come to believe that the lord blesses us with what we need when we need it...not before, not after, just EXACTLY when we need it. lately, i've been blessed with an added measure of patience. less yelling on my part, more understanding, and lots more cuddling...i don't know why i didn't do it before (especially the cuddling part).
long story short: isaac was having a HARD day. he'd already been sent to his room multiple times and was still hitting sisters and still not listening. so he got send to his sisters' room...the one that has the door knob reversed with the lock on the outside. little dude was NOT happy about it. he had to go the bathroom so i let him out and i decided it was time to talk a bit.
as i tried to explain to him WHY we need to be nice and WHY we need to listen, it wasn't working. he kept trying to justify/explain/transfer blame. then the inspiration came and i said this and was filled with more love than i've felt in a really long time. "isaac, it isn't about anything of what you just said. it's about how we treat people and how that makes them feel. and we always want people around us to feel happy."
something changed and he got it. he got on my lap and cried and said he was sorry. then he wanted me to hold him. at first i thought he said he didn't want me to hold him...but he did. and i did. and then i cried too.
i'm grateful for what happened tonight because it's changed how i see our kids. they are sensitive to truth just like we are. and tonight, it was the truth that touched isaac's little 5 year old heart and my 30 year old heart as well.
When I grow up, I wanna be just like you.
ReplyDeleteThat shattering of their egocentrism must be so painful, don't you think? I mean, they really must question their worth when they find out they're not the best or the fastest, or in Isaac's case, the only one that matters. What a blessing you are to him to reassure him as he makes that realization that he is still loved a lot.
ReplyDeleteWhat a tender moment...loved it.
ReplyDeleteTender Mercies for sure. It is so important for a child to know he is loved no matter what. I think all of your children know that from you and your husband. It will make all the difference in the world when they are older too! Good job Callie, you are such a wonderful mom.
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